Are Your Friendships Appropriate? How to Know For Sure.

Friendships are some of the most important relationships we have. Marriage partners can’t be everything to one another, after all, and even though your spouse should be the primary person in your life, you still need other close relationships. You both do. So what’s the rule around opposite gender friendships (for a heterosexual marriage)? Should there even be rules around the company we keep?

If you want to protect your marriage from infidelity, the answer is “Absolutely!” Setting up good boundaries in your friendships is essential since it is very easy to cross the line with a friend. Infidelity is not something anyone wants to experience, but it’s disturbingly common. Even more disturbing is that most affairs don’t happen online with strangers like many might think in this technological age. They happen mostly in the workplace…with colleagues, or friends, if you will.

Here’s how to have great friendships and protect your marriage from infidelity at the same time…

1) Be open with your partner, and be private (as appropriate) with your friends. You can test your current friendships by asking yourself the question, “If my partner heard and saw everything that I talked about and did with my friend, would my partner have any problems with it?” If you would have no problem with your partner seeing or hearing how you engaged and talked with a friend, you are in a safe zone. Continue to ask yourself this question with all your friendships, and you will be on the right track in keeping appropriate boundaries.

2) Since the workplace is one of the biggest danger zones for affairs, be cognizant of the time you spend with work friends. If you find yourself spending more and more time with one certain co-worker during lunches and coffee breaks, ask yourself about your boundaries. You may need to scale back the time you spend with one another or turn the one-on-one meetings into group meetings. Invite a few other co-workers along for lunch.

3) Do not be too supportive of a friend who is confiding in you about his or her failing relationship. Often times, we find somebody attractive with whom we bond because of a relationship that is going south; boundaries can start to blur, and the closeness of a friendship might turn into something else. If your friend or coworker talks to you excessively about a failing relationship, redirect the conversation or let your friend know that, perhaps, he or she should speak with his or her partner instead.

4) If you are having any problems in your marriage, discuss it with your spouse. If you feel that you need to talk to somebody else about your relationship, make sure that the person you speak to is supportive of your marriage. Do not get into divisive discussions with other people about your partner.

5) Avoid old boyfriends and girlfriends. If you have a former lover that you see at a class reunion or who “friends” you on Facebook, for instance, invite your partner to come along to the event or avoid “friending” the old flame on any social media sites. Better yet, avoid old flames altogether.

6) Make your partner aware of all of your online friendships, and be open with your email, Facebook, and any other Internet tools you are using to engage with friends. Never exchange any sexual fantasies or any information of a sexual nature online.

7) Make sure that all of your friends and family are supportive of your marriage. Surround yourself with people who are happy in their relationships and who do not believe in stepping out with another partner.

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