3 Ways to Protect Your Marriage from an Affair

So good news! The ability to avoid your spouse cheating on you is POSSIBLE! Yep, you just need to follow the rules of love and relationships. The reason for affairs? We don’t follow the rules because we didn’t know there was a predictable path for keeping marriages loyal. But there is a formula.

Okay, so before I begin, let me tell you that THE MOST IMPORTANT task in keeping your marriage safe from infidelity is to maintain good boundaries in friendships and work relationships. It is very easy to cross the line with a friend or colleague, and before you know it, you end up in a dangerous intimate territory. Just know, emotional infidelity happens long before two people step into physical infidelity so you have to protect your marriage from blurry boundaries first. Pretending “it’s nothing” is very dangerous ground, and you’ll find yourself stepping over boundaries. But do you know the boundaries? Ah, well, that’s the key, isn’t it? Read on to assess your relationships…below, are your three tips for keeping your marriage safe:

1) Be open with your partner, and be private (as appropriate) with friends. You can test your current friendships by asking yourself the question, “If my partner heard and saw everything that I talked about and did with my friend, would my partner have any problems with it?” If you would have no problem with your partner seeing or hearing how you engaged and talked with a friend, you are in a safe zone. Continue to ask yourself this question with all your friendships, and you will be on the right track in keeping appropriate boundaries.

2) The workplace is one of the biggest danger zones for affairs. If you find yourself spending more and more time with one certain co-worker during lunches and coffee breaks, ask yourself about your boundaries. You may need to scale back the time you spend with one another or turn the one-on-one meetings into group meetings. Invite a few other co-workers along for lunch.

3) Don’t be too supportive of a friend who is confiding in you about his or her failing relationship. Often times, we find somebody attractive with whom we bond because of a relationship that is going south; boundaries can start to blur, and the closeness of a friendship might turn into something else. If your friend or coworker talks to you excessively about a failing relationship, redirect the conversation or let your friend know that, perhaps, he or she should speak with his or her partner instead.

Your marriage should be the most important thing in your life if you want it to be happy, healthy, and amazing. Protect it with all you’ve got. Start with this assessment to evaluate the nature of your relationships, and encourage your spouse to do the same. So, is your marriage safe today?