5 Steps to Stop Obsessive Thoughts

Writing down your thoughts provides an outlet for letting things go. Basically, when you write your thoughts and emotions down on paper, your brain is no longer cluttered with racing thoughts, and those thoughts and feelings are left on the paper. It is also a safe way to express yourself and explore different thoughts and feelings without concerning yourself with what effect they might have on others. Here’s how:

1. Write in an uncensored way, and follow your emotions and obsessions until you feel that everything is out. In this way, you can also discover new things and come to clarifications about thoughts that might have confused you before you had written them down.

2. When you start to obsess because of negative emotions that come up for you, pull out your journal and write whenever the mood strikes you.

3. You can use the computer, but I always recommend using paper and pen. There’s something about the physical act of handwriting that is healing and allows you to let things out more effectively. Also, digital data is prone to being discovered or hacked, and while this may not be a huge concern for you, it is something to take into account.

4. In your journal, you can also write in a letter format. You can write a letter to your partner in an uncensored way. Just let your feelings flow out on paper, and let that letter stay in your journal. The letter is not intended to be mailed or to be given away to anybody, but it is a way for you to be able to speak to the person that has hurt you without censorship. This is a way for you to release your thoughts and feelings so that they are not cluttering your mind.

5. You can also write a list of questions every time you feel overwhelmed with unanswered questions about the affair. This exercise has a twofold benefit: It allows you to free your mind of obstruction, and it also gives you a list of questions to discuss with your spouse about the issue that has hurt you.